An Appropriate Forward

I got this from the most AMAZING Woman today. She felt it appropriate for those she sent it to, and I agree so much that I'm going to post it for ALL to see!

"Oh, how I wish my dad would get sober." "Oh, how I want my friend to get help with her eating problem." "Oh, how I wish I could make my mom understand."

When we become obsessed with how we want others to change, we put our own happiness on hold. As we wait, hoping and scheming about how to get others to see their many problems, we are neglecting ourselves. It's almost as if we think it's not fair for us to be happy when others are miserable. But when we detach with love, we still care, we still pray and wish for the best, but we know that other people's problems belong to them, not to us.

Today let me accept the fact that if I detach with love, no one will die from it. I'll just be more healthy and happy.

You are reading from the book: Our Best Days by Nancy Hull-Mast

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Moving On...

Changes in life are unpredictable and can sometimes freeze you in a state of resistance. I was frozen and unchanging and wanting to find the rewind button for some of the things in my life. This blog has helped and hindered some of those things.

I know for some readers this is the only way they get to see my kids and hear how I am. I know for others it's to hear a good laugh. Only some of you are going to get what you came here for. I cannot promise the laughs, so this site is about to get even more boring than it already is. Most of my humor comes from me making fun of myself or others and it really never feels as good as I think it's going to. So no more self depricating humor (unless I feel good about it).

There's been a lot of change in my life lately that I've initiated and I'd like to keep changing. It makes unexpected changes flow a bit better.

What is the drabble she's talking about? Has Amber gone off of the deep end? Nope. I'm just choosing to be happy. Choosing the things that I want in my life instead of holding onto things I don't want. I heard someone say the other day that you can't have what you want if you don't let go of something in it's place. You can't have that new car if you don't let go of the p.o.s.. You can't have that new relationship if you're still stewing about the last one.

And if you can't forgive someone then you thank them in your heart for what they've taught you and it will make it easier to move on. What have you learned about yourself? About others? About life? Then you can appreciate them for who they are and what their role is in your life.

So sappy little me is not making any promises to blog much anymore. I will continue to post family pictures to my flickr account and every once in awhile I might have something funny to say, or something completely cheesy.

Everybody needs a little cheese in their life sometimes, right? And sometimes I need to knock my ass of it's little high horse and laugh at myself.